2nd Time Mom

Becoming a Mom of Two

sara k-mom of two

Hi again everyone! Thrilled to be back for my second Bundle Moms blog post! As you may have read in my “About Me” post, I am expecting my second baby in early October. Well, we recently found out the gender and we’re so excited to share we’re having another girl! I am still sort of processing because I was convinced it was a boy! When the ultrasound tech told us, I yelled, “WHAT?! NO WAY!” and then a couple tears of joy rolled down my face. I was shocked and happy at the same time. I love having a daughter so I’m thrilled to have another one. Also, my relationship with my sister is so special, so I’m excited for the bond that my daughters will hopefully have.

Finding out the gender has definitely made me more excited about the pregnancy. I remember feeling this way the first time too - it just feels more real! This milestone also signifies being halfway through the pregnancy, which brings on contrasting feelings of “I feel like I’ve been pregnant forever,” to “OMG we’re already halfway there!” The first part always feels longer because you likely don’t feel well and you might be keeping your happy news a secret, and the second half seems to fly by! Looking at the busy summer months ahead I’m sure October 2 will be here before we know it! Although, my guess is she will make her grand entrance in late September :)

Everything is different this time around… from the pregnancy itself to the way I’m feeling about bringing another baby into our lives, to what our daily life looks like now. The first time around I would describe my mental state as excited and slightly overwhelmed by what taking care of a newborn would actually be like. This time I feel much less nervous about the newborn parenting stuff, but instead overwhelmed about having two young children to care for. Especially since our first born, Dylan is approaching two years old and is exhibiting some qualities that fall under that “terrible two’s” phrase. Although at her core she’s a super sweet, fun girl, she can be very challenging at times and the thought of dealing with her and a newborn at the same time is definitely daunting. I know it won’t be easy, but the good will outweigh the bad and it will all be worth it.

Since I’ve been through it once before, I have an idea of what I’m looking forward to and what I’m not. I wasn’t the biggest fan of the breastfeeding experience, so I’m not looking forward to that, but I do believe in the benefits of it so I’m more than willing to make the sacrifice again. And I think it goes without saying, but I’m not looking forward to the midnight feedings and diaper changes and interrupted sleep, but I am looking forward to all the baby snuggles it comes with. Even though Dylan is only two (but she’s big for her age), she seems like such a big kid now, and I’m looking forward to holding a tiny, cuddly, sleepy baby in my arms. When I look back on that time with Dylan, some things were harder and some things were easier. They sleep more frequently and aren’t mobile so there’s no chasing them around and keeping them out of trouble, but they also require so much and when you can’t figure out why they’re crying it can be exhausting. Like I mentioned in my first post, there are just different challenges and joys at each stage, and I’m so curious about what it will be like to navigate all the challenges and joys of two children at two different stages. I know some days I’ll feel defeated and some days I’ll feel like Super Mom. Bring it on!

I’m definitely looking forward to maternity leave more this time. I think the first time I was overwhelmed at being a brand new mom and sometimes forgot to enjoy the time. This time since I know more of what to expect, I hope to really cherish the time because it’s so special. Dylan will be in all-day preschool by then which I think will be great for all of us, especially through the transition. I think Dylan will love and thrive in her new routine with new friends, and John and I will get to focus the majority of the day on the new baby and then enjoy time together as a family in the evenings and on weekends. I’m also excited because John will be home while I’m on maternity leave this time. Last time he had a different job and was in the office every day. Now that he’s self-employed, he will be home with us! I’m sure it will be challenging for him to focus on work and the baby, but I’m going into it with the mindset that I’m the primary caregiver and his priority during the day is work unless I really need help. It will just be nice to have him around so I’m not lonely!

Something I feel really great about is the fact that I’ll be taking 6 months off work for maternity leave, and when I go back John will continue to take care of baby #2 for probably another 6 months before we send her to daycare, and once we do, we know we’ll take her to the same place Dylan goes to now which we love. Already knowing where both kids will be all day at that point is really comforting, and as a bonus, they are just a few blocks away from each other.  

There are some other logistics on my mind as we get further along with this pregnancy, including figuring out how to arrange the kids room (we only have two bedrooms in our house so they will share) going through the storage bins of Dylan’s baby clothes and stuff to decide what we need and what we can part with, and potty training Dylan before baby #2 gets here. We have a busy summer ahead so sometimes as the days and weeks are flying by, one of these things pops into my head and I have a moment of panic thinking about how we need to take care of them, but I know they’ll happen when they’re meant to.

Overall I’m super excited about having another baby and (almost) everything that comes with it. I can’t wait to see Dylan become a big sister and to watch them interact and grow together. I realize we’re very fortunate to be able to grow our family and have two healthy children. I look forward to sharing more updates with all of you soon!