Growing up there was one thing I always wanted to be, a mom. I dreamed about it from a young age, role played with my Barbies and dolls. I could not wait to feel that little bean move around inside of me and feel the miracle of life. While I 100% agree that pregnancy is a miracle and I loved every single little hiccup and movement from both my boys, I will admit that pregnancy was not what I thought it would be. I remember growing up and my mom telling me how much she loved being pregnant. What she left out (or rather blocked out) were all those “not so glamorous moments”.
I feel like I could check off every single box from that “not so glamorous” checklist. I will admit I did not glow during my pregnancies. If anything I was sweating from all the nausea. From the moment I found out I was pregnant the nausea began. Everyone kept saying, “wait until the second trimester comes, you will feel great!” Well on came the second trimester, then the third but my nausea stuck around. Not only was I nauseous but the thought of meat was enough to send me running to the bathroom. And heartburn, oh the heartburn! I swore I was growing either a monkey or a fire breathing dragon from all they symptoms this little bean was giving me. So if you are reading this and have just found out you are expecting here is my first piece of advice. Eat what you can, when you can! Obviously we all try to eat healthy so our baby can get all the nutrients they can. But don’t get to hung up on that if you find you can’t hold anything down. If there are days where all you can eat is cereal than eat the cereal. If you need to keep a snack beside your bed for a midnight treat or early morning pick me up, that is ok. No one will judge you! Do what you need to do.
My second not so glamorous symptom was the back pain. Iy yi yi! The sciatic pain was unbearable. You know that pregnancy waddle that you read about. Yup! Been there, done that. At one point it was so bad my legs would give out on me and I would have to grab something around me so I would not fall. So my second piece of advice is this. Treat yourself. Whether that be a massage, a visit to the chiropractor, acupuncture, a pedicure with a good foot rub or a relaxing night of netflix and laying on a heating pad. Do what you have to do to stay comfortable and ahead of the pain. With my first pregnancy I kept saying, “I’m fine!” and would push myself more and more until I could no longer walk. Don’t do that. You are growing a little miracle and that is enough of a reason to say “I deserve a break!”
So here I am reflecting back on both my pregnancies with my two little boys tucked upstairs in their beds and you know what the first thing I remember is? I remember the way their movements would make me smile, I remember my husband kissing my belly every night before he would go to bed. I remember the absolute joy I felt when they were placed the sweet babe on my chest the first time. All those horrible pregnancy symptoms seem to be pushed out of my memory. All those horrible pregnancy symptoms all of a sudden become totally worth it. So if you have made it through this whole post and are feeling these little bubbles and twirls inside, I just want to say, “you got this girl!” Trust me, it is totally worth it. Enjoy it, because even though my pregnancies were not fun I have to admit I totally miss it.