Meet Amanda K.

 Blake (7 months) at his Baptism

Blake (7 months) at his Baptism

Hey y’all! I’m Amanda- I’m a 30 year old wife, mother, and Licensed Professional Counselor from a small town in Mississippi. I’m so honored to be joining The Bundle of Joy community and contributing to the blog!

A little bit about me… I’ve lived in Mississippi all but two years of my life. I’m a wife to Chris and a mom to 10 month old, Blake (real baby) and six year old, LoLo (dog baby)! I’m the eldest of two- even though at first glance most people think my sister and I are twins. We are five years apart and are best friends. She’s the toughest girl I know. I do this thing where whenever I have to do something difficult or entails pain I “channel my inner Emily” and somehow make it through!

I grew up in a very loving home. My mom and dad were amazing parents and always so supportive of my dreams and ambitions.  Most of my childhood was spent at a dance recital or a sports game and my mom and dad didn’t miss a single event. How they managed to do that I’ll never know! My dad passed away when I was 17 so being present and sharing how much I care about my family and friends is top priority for me.

I couldn’t do life and certainly not motherhood without my girlfriends! Boy, do they keep me sane! They encourage me to take better care of myself and reassure me that mom guilt is normal. One of the best parts of my friendships is that although the relationship differs from friend to friend; they’re all easy! Plus, not one of them has fussed at me for being too busy… yet! ;)

I met my husband, Chris, about 7 years ago while I was in graduate school. We fell in love right away and have been married a little over 5 years. He’s my best friend and tells me I’m pretty when my hair is greasy! (Keeper, am I right?) He’s hard working and generous. He’s somehow managed to be this tough guy, baseball coach who also writes thank you notes that could make you cry. Seriously, send Chris a gift, and he’ll send you a note that’ll make you question what you did to deserve it! When we aren't chasing around our little gapped tooth wonder, Blake, we love binging tv shows!

My career as a therapist is inspiring and challenging! Over the last seven years I’ve worked with people from all walks of life. I’ve worked with children and families to professionals with addictions. I’ve learned the importance of seeking harmony (because when in life is everything truly balanced?) in the roles we perform. It’s a value I encourage my clients to find for themselves and one that I try to live by daily.

The value of seeking harmony in life has always been important to me, and it became vital to my existence the day I found out I was pregnant. Chris and I were surprised and thrilled when we found out we were going to have a baby together. We always talked about starting a family but were unsure when the “right time” was. At the time, he had just become a head coach and I had just started a new job. Fortunately, God and the universe did me a solid and let me have a baby after baseball season ended!

Pregnancy was hard… not going to lie. Pregnancy introduced me to limits, yes, limits- mental ones, emotional ones, physical ones! Whew! The first trimester was the most difficult, I had “morning” sickness all day. Things did improve with time, but I had a pre-eclampsia scare around 20 weeks. I stayed active my whole pregnancy to try to combat the fatigue and to keep in shape. Ironically, I felt more secure in my body and more beautiful the further along I got in my pregnancy. I miss my long thick hair, but I don’t miss my rings not fitting or only being able to wear flip flops!

I gave birth at 39 weeks via emergency C-section after being induced due to pre-eclampsia. I tried for a natural birth, but it ended up being safest for the baby to be taken through cesarean. Our sweet Blake was born at 1:29 AM on June 29th, measured 22 inches long, and weighed 8lbs 10oz. His exciting entrance into the world and into our lives definitely set precedent for how he has remained.

Blake is best known for his big grin, happy disposition, relentless spirit, and infatuation with all NON-TOY things (i.e. a play mat, shoe, or spatula versus the perfectly placed dump truck, ball, or stuffed animal). He hasn’t met a food he doesn’t like. He feeds himself but will not hold his own bottle. He is observant and curious, and he reminds me to be in awe of the world around me.

Since becoming a mother, I look forward to doing the dishes! I don’t mind getting up early even though I am NOT a morning person. It’s the hardest and easiest job I’ve ever had! I’ve learned that my new-found limits actually provide me more support than ever and my new responsibilities give me motivation and accountability. And yes, the “old me” rolls her eyes all the time at the “new me” and I’m ok with that.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about motherhood is that I cannot do it all on my own. (I mean, have you tried breastfeeding?? Did you know it takes like 6 people to make that possible because I didn’t?) I’ve always prided myself in being “able to handle a lot” but, trust me, that pride does not serve anyone well long term. I’ve leaned harder on my husband, mom, sister, in-laws, and friends than ever before. I’ve sought out online support for feeding and sleeping schedules. I’ve googled tips and tricks for making bedtime routines easier. And you know what, asking for help works!! Who would have thought?- ha!

I love weekends at home the best. I love eating sushi and ice cream more than I should. I love staring at the big gap between Blake’s two front teeth, which he proudly shows off all the time. I love hearing Blake giggle and bang on pots with wooden spoons. I love eating dinner on our deck under the string lights that Chris hung up. I love letting my dog, Lolo, sleep in the bed with me. I love surrounding myself with people who can make me laugh and don't take life too seriously. And I love that motherhood is pushing me to trust myself and others more now than ever.

Thanks for taking the time to get to know me, and I hope you’ll enjoy what I share in the future!

 

xo,

Amanda K.